we have allexperienced heartbreak or rejection. Rejection and heartbreak are inevitable irrespective of our status in the society, wealth, beauty or wisdom and experience.
We all go through heart breaks. It’s everyday occurrence, it may not just be the regular romantic love heart break. It’s comes in different forms. Through friends, business partners, your romantic partners, family, colleagues at workplace, loss of our pet, and role model.
Heartbreaks does not come only when our friends or partner break the deal or dishonoured the vow and agreements we had with them. It also means to loss your friends and loved ones to the cold hands of death. Or to see them in a terrible condition and state. Such as accident and sickness.
People walk out of our lives on daily basis. When they do we become uncontrollable sad. Depression and emotional wreck follows. Heartbreaks and rejection are something many persons do not wish to experience. I have witnessed many people go through heartbreak and rejection. But they all handled it differently, people react differently to situations. Some people are strong while others are fragile. The way miss Kylie handle heart breaks is different from how Peter will do.
The agony of heartbreaks are next nothing. It is the saddest and hardest thing to go through or see people go through. Most of us do not have a glue on how to handle heart breaks. Because we go into a relationship with the mind-set that, it will be forever or that the other person will not hurt us. Some of us are so naive to these things, that when it comes raining we get drenched and contract pneumonia as a result. While some of us are experts in handling matters of the heart.
One time, a friend contacted me and said I should reach out to our other friend who was bereaved to give words of encouragement. I pick up my phone and called her, but I could not get the right words out at that moment. I quickly dropped the phone. But I was able to gather my thoughts and called back later.
Before writing this post, I reached out to many people as possible to talk to them on how to handle heartbreaks. I was able to come up with primary essential things to do and overcome heart breaks.
When you go through heartbreak, do not dwell on it for more than a day especially when it involves an estranged spouse and romantic partners. You are allowed to mourn them for a day, except it is an unfortunate case of death. You can listen to all the saddest songs ever written, scoop from the bowel of your guilty pleasure, watch those romantic movies over again ans cry unapologetically, but it should not exceed more than two days no matter the situation, do not go overboard with it.
One easiest ways to get through heartbreaks is to go out. After you may have mourned the sweet memories. Dress up and hit the town with your girls or boys. When I say, boys or girls I mean the very crazy, sassy and brutal blunt ones. They ones that will not throw a pity party for you. Go out with them and dance uncontrollable. Go to the funkiest places in town. Scream, shout and hug people, get out of your comfort zone. I have seen it work many times for people.
Be motivated and cash out on the situation. We should always thank God for the man who broke Adele’s heart. Because we could not have been blessed with such an amazing and inspirational talent. She turned her misery into empire. Heartbreak should motivate you to become more aggressive towards achieving your goals. If you were not putting more effort, it should make you do that. Because the best revenge is for that person to see that you are better and richer. Hit the gym and sweat it out, cash in on your coins.
Try as much as you can to not think about the person. When your mind wants to wander the, quickly snapout and focus on positive things. Do not be in the situation or environment that will remind you of him or her.
Some people during the period of heart breaks, they will wish death on themselves. If you have such people around. Take them to a bridge and see if they are up for the task or speed drive on a police free road with your seat belts on. Let them experience what dying looks like. Go on an extreme dangerous situation. Such as parasailing, Mountain viewing, sky diving, or visit game centre such as wonderland, Disneyland, let the water from an ocean splash on bare skin. Be wild but with care. Get rid of everything that will make you remember the person.
Talk to trusted people or therapist about your feelings, if you find it difficult to let go. No matter what people tell you it is difficult to let go sometime. But do not capitalise on that. To handle heartbreak is all about you.