Listening is an act of hearing attentively. It is a deliberate and a conscious effort to extract information from people. There are difference between listening skills and hearing. One of the biggest problem in the world is that human beings do not listen. We may be staring at a person speak and talk but we may not have an idea what they are talking about, because we are lost in thought. We are all guilty of this including me.
Most people have a terrible habit of pressing their mobile phones, whispering, passing notes, when an important and serious lecture is going on. It’s simply shows we do not have courtesy. Listening skills enables you to hear the person speaking, see their body language, their postures. It gives you a deeper understanding of everything they are saying.
When you actually listen you can hear what is my being said and how it is said. People communicate differently, it only when you listen that you get to hear, see and know what they are actually talking or saying.
We all, most time pretend to listen but in reality we are faking it. Because most time we already planning what to reply the person next in our heads. Without listening and waiting patiently for the person to finish. Interrupting to give our opinions is not ideal. You need to know those little details that is associated with the lecture and information. Their eyes and hands movements speak too if you listen.
No one knows it all. When it comes to listening attentively and extracting all the information given. But we have to make an effort to improve in order to become better teacher, father, mother, leaders, staffs, colleagues, boss and a better child to our parents.
Listening careful and attentively, show that you have regard, love and admiration for the person speaking. You do not just cut in on them. It is rude to do so. We all do this and we need become better. Because that is the only way we can live better. When you have a good listening skills it show that you are respectful. It is only persons with lack of respect that will cut others short to make their own point. Listening is a dialogue.
Respect is reciprocal, when you give respect you will receive it too. In other words, when you listen to people speak, they will listen to you. Respect for others is ideal and one of the ways to show it is through listening and asking questions at the right time.
seeking information from people around and listening to them, make us know a lot of things we were ignorant about. It open doors for success. Because the more you listen attentively the more you grab life changing information. You draw out important information, fresh ideas and solutions to problems. Do not jump in when someone is speaking, give them time to exhaust their mind. After that you respectfully ask questions. Do not be rude when asking questions.
Listen more and talk less. Let them make all the point before you interrupt. You seek to understand first. When you understand them. You could then try to make them understand things from your perceptive.
Listening can skills n help challenge some long-held assumptions about you. Because you are able to understand them and their views. When you listen, is the only time you can know what people assumed about you from their words. you can think and come up with your own explanation for those assumptions. That is the only time you can open up challenge this assumptions. Change their attitude and make a difference.
Good listener seek to understand first. Do not rush to give solutions to problems first. When you truly listen you do not have to think of what to say next. It flows in because you understand. Ask the right questions. It is only when you are listening you can know and help them to see things in a different light. You open their minds to a better way of doing things and thinking.
To be successful in life you need to know how to listen. Let people know that you respect what they have to contribute. It will make them happy and they will love to say more. Saying more will open your eyes to things you did not know. That is how success come in. The most successful people are the ones you listen and extract every bit of information to their own benefits.
Listening bring about the habit of giving back. When you actually state what someone say, it feel like you were following them. They will give back to you. Ask for clarification if you are confused. It shows your leadership quality
Let learn and cultivate the habit and skills of listening today. For a successful and better life.