In my previous post about women and feminist I highlighted some of the things that need to be in place for women to take full charge of themselves and marginalize their potentials. Women have to be physically, mentally, financially and social empowered. In order to contribute to the society. Remember certain things are not given to women freely, except they make demand for it or fight for it. Taking charge involved so much more. A lot of feminists fought and pave ways for us and they are still on the course. As a women the power of self-love can never be over emphasis. You have to love your body, mind and soul to the extend that not a thing can make you feel lesser about how God created you. You do not need a validation from anyone to feel good about yourself. Do not put yourself in a sticky situation, it may drain your soul and energy.
What to Avoid as Feminists and a Women in General
- DO not allowed others to determine your self-worth as woman
- Do not take on more than you can handle from people.
- Do not compromise at the expense of your health and mental well-being.
- Do not allow your physical appearance overshadow your self-worth. Value yourself first before you point out unfair treatment from others. Be the feminist that is not bias.
- Do not be a hindrance to achieving the set out goals and objectives for women and feminists.
Mental empowerment is essential to achieving our goal. Imagine some women whose mentality is fixed that a woman place is limited to the kitchen. And that foundation had been laid down by her great, great, great grand mother. In fact it’s a family tradition that women should not aspire to be more than kitchen keepers. She is enforcing this same ideology to her daughters. And, no matter what these modern women who have read one or two books have to say. Please do not get me wrong. Nothing is wrong with being in the kitchen. I love the kitchen with all my heart. but beyond the kitchen, there are more rooms to occupy.
I read how a Nigerian actress Omoni Oboli posted a picture of her son doing house chores on social media. Hell break loose, men and women bashed her. On why she subjected her male child to the work of a female child. Damn! My heart went into a reset factory, because of the numbers of women that were against her. There were so many questions I needed to asked those people. One was for them to explain, evaluate and analyse with evident to me who made the law of females being sole washer of plates at homes. Ah! Women we need to do better. Most of us need to press the reset button our mentality. Before we can talk about being a feminist and women empowerment. Equally and all that stuff we say just to look cool. We must work on ourselves.
Educate yourself first. Do not come and preach gender equality. When at our various homes we are an opposite of what we display for the public eyes.